Sure, we all hear about decent human beings connecting with each other via online dating sites then meeting up, hooking up, and even shacking up. I’m living proof that chivalry isn’t dead just yet. I’m always going to be myself, so what you see is what you get.But sites like Ok Cupid, Match.com, and others aren’t all virtual flowers and fairy-tale social-networking romances. Especially when an intelligent, smart, totally awesome woman must sort through piles of gnarly missives drafted by web-savvy Neanderthals to find her prince. you look very very nice im 27 looking for someone real sincere honest women who is serious about relationship i know many women not like me want to have relationship with me cuz im from faraway but i still hope one day i ll meet my dream women she ll love me alot and same i ll return i feel to message u so i did lets friend and get to know other better if u interested im waiting" —Mr North Pole"hi my name is nick. (I happen to think you’ll be getting a good thing, but that’s what this is all about, right? was lucky enough to have found one very special person and loved her with all my heart and soul, gave her my time, my attention, my loving support, and did the best i could to always be there...And why do you, a 23-year-old, want to date someone who could technically be your father if 16 & Pregnant had existed in the 70s? And also realize that while relationships with large age differences can of course be happy and successful, there is usually something wrong with a person who refuses to engage romantically with anyone in their peer group, and instead seeks out a relationship that will involve serious differences in experience and power.
But turning your dating profile into a laundry list of complaints isn’t going to get you what you want; at best it’s going to make you sound like a whiny baby, and at worst it’s going to make you sound like a huge racist. You sound like a bad Lifetime movie boyfriend, not a reasonably dateable person.
It may be true that your interests are 69, anal, ass, bikini babes, masturbating, porn, vaginas and the beach.
Shirtless photos for men (or bikini photos for women) say “I vacation on the Jersey Shore, pump my fist to house music, use tons of hair gel and probably have at least one tribal / Chinese symbol tattoo.” Myspace-style chin-down eyes-up pouty-face selfies say, “I want to look pretty and am not particularly intelligent.” Far-away vacation shots say, “Have I mentioned that I travel? Use proper punctuation and make sure most of the words are spelled correctly.
I’m sure I mentioned it like 56 times in my profile, but just in case you missed it, here is me in Laos. Love it.” Think beyond “this is a cool / funny / flattering photo that I like” and ask yourself, “How is a total stranger going to view me and my life when they look at this photo? This one should be obvious, but unfortunately it’s not. The exception to this rule: You are a moron who would like to attract other morons. One very reliable red flag on online dating sites: People who list the age range of people they’ll date as significantly younger or significantly older, but not overlapping with their own.
This is, unsurprisingly, pretty strongly gendered: There are tons of men who are, say, 36, and list their dating age range from 20 – 35, or women who are 28 and list their dating age range from 29 – 44.