People are talking and we are not even dating


It covers everything from how to get started to proper profile and messaging etiquette in today’s online dating world.

The real problem is that I don’t find him attractive.

He is not ugly but I don’t like his features and overall appearance.

Mia, I can’t answer your question, because NOBODY can answer your question. Which would seem to indicate that you should break up with your boyfriend. I’ve put a lot of thought into the pros and cons of how much you should weigh the lack of physical attraction in a relationship.

Attraction is the big X Factor in any relationship. I urge you to consider this before taking any rash steps. But realize that in 10 years, you’re 37, raising little ones and your life is no longer your own. By 57, you’re probably finishing menopause and his libido is largely gone.

We’re still going to crave choice and variety, and something approximating societal ideas of perfection, however unrealistic this might be.