Interracial dating and black women


You don’t need to throw it in his face that you can make it without him or any man.

Instead, show him the places you do need him, because love, affection, companionship and sex are things you likely still want from a man. Some Black women don’t want to say how they feel lonely without a man, how they feel, out of all their success, he’s the only thing truly missing, and how they want nothing more than to give all of their love to a Black man, because, often times, if a Black woman is vulnerable and honest about those feelings, she’s called desperate by Black men. Also, while a woman shouldn’t pursue a man purely for his money, if you really want to be a provider and contribute financially to her life, you can’t turn around and get mad when an independent woman asks you to pay a bill just because “she got it.” The idea that a White woman knows how to submit and let a man lead, while a Black woman does not, is both contentious and false. Will Black women submit in the same speed and to the same type of Black men as a White woman? There’s an expectation that every man should be the leader, and his woman should submit to him.

Understand that you can’t try to run a man or a relationship, or you will end up just running him away.

Doing something your man asks of you does not make you weak or powerless; it means you’re able to follow and compromise, which is something Black men want and need.

You’ll see how quick we are to point out our issues with the other gender, but rarely accept hard truths about our gender or do anything to change them.