If you find yourself judging someone, ask yourself why.
And then, rather than hating yourself for being so judgmental, this book challenges you to love yourself for that exact quality.
My notes show little exercises that I completed such as "stories I tell myself," "my insecurities/what I'm afraid of" and "rating 1-10 of my values in a person." While most of them were things I knew and thought about daily, some of them were truly surprising to me and made think a little harder.
If you're looking for a book that will challenge you, make you think in a new way or just get you to understand how other people view dating, I would certainly recommend If the Buddha Dated.
One of the first notes I have is a list of "What kinds of things am I still getting comfortable with about myself?