Max and his wife were happy for quite a while, but then everything had changed: Such was Max’s relationship with his wife for several months.
Max was becoming more and more irritated, and then, one day, his wife said the words that horrified him.
[Prepare for a long road back if she'll have you, and go read Dear for starters] You're messing with "her" babies, whether you're their parent or step-parent.
[Solution: look for Third Alternative solutions to your differences about how to raise them or how they should behave around you] You're so busy being a good provider or a good dad or a lost soul that you two no longer experience the emotion of love several times a day, that delicious bonus emotion felt in your chest when the two of you resonate with a shared experience of joy, amusement, awe, comfort, elevation, or better.
In this post and the one to follow, I tackle the question of how to avoid being blindsided. You might hurt her or make her feel like dirt at any moment, usually while you're drinking, doing drugs, or crazy angry.