Yes, I’d be happy to share the best friends with benefits rules so you can hook up without things being complicated.It’s certainly possible, but it requires that you look at things honestly and set clear boundaries for yourself. (aka: how to have a friends with benefits arrangement without drama, difficulty, or disaster) This means no neighbors, no co-workers, no ex-boyfriends, no guys that are currently your friend and no people within your social circle.
If you feel you need to connect with someone as a friend… If you feel like you want a boyfriend, then start a relationship with a guy from the foundation of creating that kind of relationship.
As a rule, though, never put your FWB into a role that is outside the arrangement (which is pure sexual enjoyment and exploration).
It also requires that you know yourself – some women can have a friends with benefits arrangement with a guy and have absolutely no problem with it… It’s a mixture of biology, personality, and psychology that will determine if you’re someone who can do it or not… I am not encouraging or advocating having a friends with benefits arrangement in your life or as a lifestyle. I’m simply answering your question and speaking to what friends with benefits rules will lead to the most successful results – those results being to get what you want without hurting anyone (including yourself) in the process. Really, the term “friends with benefits” is misleading because having a FWB arrangement is sleeping with a guy who’s your friend.
I want you to get what you want for the greatest good of everyone involved. It’s an arrangement that you define from the get-go as a purely sexual arrangement…
I want something that’s dependable enough that I can take care of my needs without having to jump from guy to guy or pick some guy up at a bar or club.