To do this, be sure to engage in positive self-talk, Friedman says.And if you are on medication, take it religiously; be consistent with therapy; surround yourself with a support system of friends and family; and be around upbeat, positive people.“Don’t push yourself to date if the timing doesn’t feel right,” she says. You might need to lick your own wounds first.”You don’t owe it to the person to discuss your depression on a first date, Friedman says.
If you are having libido problems that are medication related, talk to your doctor about alternatives that might be less likely to dampen your sex drive.
You can also let your partner know that you care in other ways.
You might choose that time to share that you have depression.”When you feel the time is right, Friedman suggests a three-part “script.” First, tell your partner that she is important to you, enough so that you have something about yourself to share with her.
Second, don’t just blurt out “I suffer from depression.” Instead, preface it by telling her there’s something you’ve struggled with that’s a fairly common problem, let her know you have been diagnosed with depression and that you’re taking care of yourself by seeking treatment.
Friedman says these types of sites can be a good place to go to, but consider mainstream dating sites as well.