I allowed myself to be with several abusive men, and the BPD in me would refuse to walk away.” Corinne, who is currently single, says, “It’s really easy for me to fall into a scary depressive episode that centers solely around being single, and usually to bolster my confidence it’s followed by a manic episode where I obsessively use dating apps in a frenzy.I have to work extra hard against BPD to make sure I’m not basing my self-worth around my relationships.”Unfortunately, BPD can be a lifelong battle, which can mean a lifetime of rocky relationships, especially if the sufferer does not get treatment.
Dating someone with BPD can be hard work, but, hey, what relationship doesn’t require a little elbow grease?
There are several different challenges when it comes to dating while mentally ill. And remember that it's normal to feel a bit of trepidation; the mental health discrimination organization Time To Change has found that a whopping 75 percent of people with mental disorders felt scared to tell new partners about it. Myths about mental disorders, romantic and otherwise, abound; people who introduce the fact of their diagnosis fear rejection by somebody cute, or being pegged as "crazy" and "undateable".
So to answer the question you may be thinking right now: No, not everyone who is diagnosed with BPD is admitted into a mental ward, but that doesn’t mean it’s not a difficult mental illness with which to live—particularly when it comes to interpersonal relationships.
While any mental illness can take a toll on relationships, BPD is often thought to take the cake when it comes to making dating difficult.
It's important to raise your mental illness, according to this way of thinking, when it starts to actively change your behavior within the relationship.