3 that was the game changer: a retired Army vet so far outside my Ivy League, uber-successful, parent-pleasing doctor-lawyer parameters — which had thus far provided me with liars, cheaters, and pervs. But by the end of the night, when he traced circles around my wrist with the tip of his finger, I had Jan Brady butterflies. (The advent of technology has not only made it easier to date, it has also made it easier to dump.) It was date No.
In terms of attraction, when you connect deeply at this level, attraction can grow. Ladies, you can’t do anything about the men who want a midlife-crisis-Barbie-Doll.
So stop looking for super hot chemistry and butterflies when you first meet. Ignore those men, and seek out the guys who want a relationship with someone they can relate to. Truly.◊♦◊Guys, if you’re comparing all the women you date to your ex, or you’re still blaming her for your problems, please get therapy and work this stuff out.
I had no idea my friends would eventually intervene with a pitcher of margaritas, a bag of sexy clothes, and a cellphone. It took me three glasses of wine to figure out what to wear and two more to get out the door.
That last part is how I came to be a 50-year-old woman on a dating app.
Dating is still about getting to know someone, taking the time to see if you connect spiritually, emotionally, intellectually and physically. From early on, be intentional about showing real interest in the other person and getting to know one another as transparently as possible.