After I told him a little about her, he asked me a very pointed question: "Marry her? The implication in both examples is that everyone ought to have a string of relationships before settling down. With Hollywood as our vehicle, we Americans have cultivated the expectation of "dating for dating's sake." We seem to believe there is some benefit to attaching oneself emotionally to another person only to tear away again after a year or so, and then repeating the process until eventually becoming jaded, old and single.
" If I remember correctly, he actually laughed slightly as he asked the question. The truth was that I just thought she was cute, and she liked me back, so we started dating.
I knew him through my family and hadn't seen him in a while. Since then I've messed around with more girls than I can count, but I have never dated a girl that I knew I couldn't marry - because ultimately that is what I want.
If the girl gets attached in the process, it just means the breakup will be messier. Yes, the initial thrill of a new relationship is exciting, but each time that excitement grows less and less because you grow accustomed to it.
Even when a man does get emotionally invested, it usually occurs more slowly and to a lesser degree. If the countless e-mails I get from readers, or my female friends' stories and my own experience are any indication, you know what I am talking about. You gradually throw away the innocence that allows for deep emotional attachment to a single partner, in exchange for a series of brief, shallower attachments that cause you to raise your defenses against something permanent.
What doesn't end in permanency is bound to end in heartbreak, and if you eventually want to get married, you are doing yourself a disservice by ignoring that fact in the interest of "not over-thinking it" or "living in the moment." While emotional risk is important and necessary in order to find someone you really connect with, dating with no objective is nothing short of reckless.
So before you get involved with someone new, make sure you know what you are looking for - and more importantly for women, what is looking for. If you both want someone to settle down with, count yourself lucky.
They showed the pain of a family goes through when losing a loved one. Most sit-coms now-a-days shy too much away from reality and give us a syrupy-sweet, trite twenty minutes of simulated laugh tracks and simulated humor.