Remember she is understandably loyal to the memory of her husband, and loyal to you now in the present by promising to marry.
I don’t think her silence did indicate that she would rather be with someone else – but putting the past behind you and taking hold of the future can be difficult and takes time.
‘However, his wife, to whom he was happily married, only died a few months ago. Hopeful Girl, how soon do you think is too soon to start dating after being widowed?
’ Once, when I was bemoaning my single status, someone tried to reassure me that ‘the widowers are now starting to come back on the market’. However, as we get older, people increasingly find themselves single again after the death of a spouse – and, in fact, I ended up dating a lovely man who’d lost his wife to breast cancer four years earlier. It’s dangerous to start making rules about when a widow or widower will be ready for a new relationship, as every situation is unique.
By not needing him to be different than who he was, I got to show him that I loved him completely, no matter what he called me (within reason, of course).