Just because things did not pan out romantic wise - why in the world would I throw the baby out with the bath water and cut high quality people out of my life?well, drawing examples from individual experiences might not necessarily negate the potential effects FWBs could have on future partners. Thinking I was her, as I was answering her text messages (at her request), I invited him over.Many have observed that these two other sets of relationships are what really suffer.
Not knowing if I am shaking the hand of one of her former lovers makes me feel like a damn fool sometimes.
Unfortunately, that has also caused me to view her in a less favorable light.
How different is that from having ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends in you friend group? And in my friend groups, which is pretty large, there are lots of exes, some who are now dating or married to other friends.
I don't see that "chilling effect" you mention at all, do you have some statistical evidence to back it up?
So if you currently have a friend (or two) with benefits, or consider turning a friend (or two) into friends with benefits, don’t worry too much about the friendship: If your non-sexual relationship is strong to begin with, adding a sexual component to the mix is unlikely to change that. You seem to have a poor understanding of sex, STDs, and a normal sex life.