You can use different handles in each section under the same account too, so no one will be any wiser if you want to advertise for one thing in one place without ruining your chances for something more should it come up.After Lavalife, I only know of a few others that are worth mentioning, although I've yet to find one that's truly ideal.All you have to do is complete your profile with a bit about you, upload a picture and complete your favorite music.
Of course, new sites will debut that may or may not be of merit.
My first recommendation would be to try Lavalife's Intimate Encounters section; you sign up with them and then decide which of the three sections you want to be a part of (Dating, Relationships or Intimate Encounters).
The site is dedicated to punks, emos, goths, rockers and all types of alternative people.
So if you're looking for an alternative partner why not sign up, its free to join!
My preferences would be Club Intimate, Fling, Adult Match Doctor, and Get It On, As for adult dating sites that I don't recommend, see my reviews for Shag Pal and Adult Friend Finder.